Friends of the Best Kind


I’m incredibly lucky.

It’s not that I have an easy life — there’s almost always a crisis or two at some stage of happening. Health issues and financial problems have plagued me and, like everyone else I know, there’s never enough time to get things done.

But what I do have is amazing.  I have great friends. 

Right now I just want to say thanks to one of them: for her unfailing generosity both of spirit and substance; for her compassion and humor, as well as her strengths and her frailties.  I don’t know how I would have made it through the past dozen years without her love and support.

But I know I’ll never have to find out what it would be like without it. Our friendship is like the two trees in the Osho Zen Tarot card pictured. Steady, deeply rooted, and solid as a well-rooted tree. No matter the season, the foundation goes deep.

Here is the Osho site’s description and commentary on Friendliness:

First meditate, be blissful, then much love will happen of its own accord. Then being with others is beautiful and being alone is also beautiful. Then it is simple, too. You don’t depend on others and you don’t make others dependent on you. Then it is always a friendship, a friendliness. It never becomes a relationship, it is always a relatedness. You relate, but you don’t create a marriage. Marriage is out of fear, relatedness is out of love. You relate; as long as things are moving beautifully, you share. And if you see that the moment has come to depart because your paths separate at this crossroad, you say good-bye with great gratitude for all that the other has been to you, for all the joys and all the pleasures and all the beautiful moments that you have shared with the other. With no misery, with no pain, you simply separate.
aaa                      [from] Osho The White Lotus Chapter 10
The branches of these two flowering trees are intertwined, and their fallen petals blend together on the ground in their beautiful colors. It is as if heaven and earth are bridged by love. But they stand individually, each rooted in the soil in their own connection with the earth. In this way they represent the essence of true friends, mature, easy with each other, natural. There is no urgency about their connection, no neediness, no desire to change the other into something else. This card indicates a readiness to enter this quality of friendliness. In the passage, you may notice that you are no longer interested in all kinds of dramas and romances that other people are engaged in. It is not a loss. It is the birth of a higher, more loving quality born of the fullness of experience. It is the birth of a love that is truly unconditional, without expectations or demands.

2 thoughts on “Friends of the Best Kind

  1. I find a true friend is someone I haven’t seen in a while who can relate with me as if we had just been talking together the day before. We simply pick up where we know the other will be. Being trusting, open, and kind.

    michael j

  2. Just want to say what a great blog you got here!
    I’ve been around for quite a lot of time, but finally decided to show my appreciation of your work!

    Thumbs up, and keep it going!


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